How To Support The Troops And Possibly Find A Military Pen Pal

by Hank


Mail Call for US Army Soldiers in OIF2

One of my friends recently told me that she wanted to support the war effort and write to some of the Soldiers and other military men and women serving overseas in Iraq and Afghanistan. It was a really sweet thought and gesture. I tend to personally take the whole war for granted as everyday life now of a career military man. I forget that people still want to help and contribute. I am still blown away by the sheer number of people who care about America’s military personnel and want to help. The problem, like that of my friend, is that most people who are civilians and do not have much contact with members of the military do not know where to start looking for a place to help or show their support.

A Few Great Websites To Help You Support The Troops…

AdoptAPlatoon – AdoptaPlatoon strives to provide a better deployment quality of life by sending cards, letters and care packages to lift the morale of Troops as they serve far from home.

Any – Back in the WWII, Korean War, and Vietnam, Americans back home could send a care package to the troops by not listing a specific name or address but by simply putting the phrase “Any Soldier” on the mailing address and Uncle Sam would do the rest to get the box in the hands of someone serving in uniform. Now, because of safety, that is not allowed. Senders must have an exact name and address of a member of the military in order to mail a box overseas. The group, Any, solved this problem by marrying up the names and addresses of military men and women with wonderfully giving people back home.

America Supports You – America Supports You, one of many initiatives managed by the Office of Community Relations, is intended to communicate citizen support to the men and women serving in the Armed Forces and their families. One great resource that lists a lot of different groups writing and sending packages to troops overseas is America Supports You’s Homefront Groups.

The Fisher House – Fisher House Foundation donates “comfort homes,” built on the grounds of major military and VA medical centers. These homes enable family members to be close to a loved one during the hospitalization for an unexpected illness, disease, or injury.

Operation Gratitude – Operation Gratitude seeks to lift morale and put smiles on faces by through letter writing campaigns, collection drives, and sending care packages addressed to individual Soldiers, Sailors, Airmen and Marines deployed in harm’s way.

USO – I love the USO. The USO does more than put on great concerts for the troops. The USO has an extensive range of programs at more than 150 centers in 27 countries that support the members of the military and their families back home. USO centers operate to provide a place to unwind, to connect to families back home or whatever else is needed to ease the burden. Even if you are not able to volunteer on a regular basis, local USO centers often have programs and events that need your support.

The Best Kept Secret To Finding A Soldier To Write To…

If you really want to write to a Soldier, Airmen, Sailor, or Marine in search of a pen pal, the best way to find those military members is to ask another person in the military to recommend someone to you. Asking for someone’s specific name and address through a mutual acquaintance is one of the best ways to find a member of the military who does not receive much mail while overseas and may be in need of a pen pal. I had a radio operator during my first deployment to Iraq who did not receive much mail from home. So, one day I happened mentioned that fact to my mother. The next thing I new, she and all of her coworkers quickly made that young private the most popular Soldier at mail call on the entire base for the next month. He got so much mail that he begged me to ask my mom and her friends to slow down sending him packages.

Things To Consider When Writing To Members Of The Military

    US Army mail call at FOB Normandy, Iraq OIF2

    US Army mail call at FOB Normandy, Iraq

  1. The men and women of the military who have served or are serving overseas have seen and been through a lot. They may not want to talk about it especially with a stranger. So, don’t dig too deep and don’t take their avoidance of war topics personally. But, that does not mean that they do not want to talk about other topics.
  2. Letters are great but don’t overdo it with packages. The combat zones are so establishes now that most members of the military can buy much of what they need or miss from home.
  3. If you do mail a package, make sure that you do not include anything that will melt and pack the box so it can survive being thrown off a second story balcony to the ground below. You wouldn’t think it, but the mail in Iraq and Afghanistan is not handled with kid gloves at all times.
  4. It takes a long time for mail to reach Iraq and Afghanistan. If you are going to mail a Soldier a box for the holidays, you need to do it soon in order to ensure that it gets delivered by Christmas.
  5. Do not bother sending packages overseas through the USPS’s Express Mail. It won’t get there that much faster than ordinary priority or first class mail.

Any mail is better than no mail for a member of the military that is thousands of miles away from home. Many of these young Soldiers, Sailors, Airmen, and Marines have never been so far away from their loved ones and friends. The programs listed above are a great starting source for anyone looking for a military pen pal or who wants to help support the troops.

Photos courtesy of CPT Hank Coleman


Angelita May 15, 2011 at 12:01 pm

I don’t know, what website to join to write to Military man and become a pen pal. There is alot of women out there, looking for husbands and I just want to write a Militry man. To thank them and support them with caring letters from home. And to show Military man, we are here for them. Help me find a SAFE web-site to make this possible.
Thank-you , again

Hank May 15, 2011 at 4:14 pm

The best websites to use are one of the ones listed in the article.

Mary James November 14, 2011 at 2:30 am

Thank you Hank, not only for your wonderful article but for your service to our country.

gabrielle November 25, 2013 at 5:49 pm

I was recently had the unfortunate experience of a gentleman trying toscam me for saying needing to pay for leave
I didnt respond and was shocked to find the person i thought was soilder isnt probsbly atall
The site need to get rid block these tomantic scamers as could look bsd on real miltary im from the uk and id like nice penpal toramble on to kerp in touch with show support and mske smile maybe meet one day help

Erlinda August 10, 2014 at 5:30 pm

Hi, I just want to express my sincere thanks to all military personnel for everything they have done. I really don’t have any contact with women and men in the military, so I just decided to look for a website. I live in a small town in New Mexico and always watching the news to see what is happening. I pray that you all come home to your families soon. I would love to hear from anyone that needs a friend to talk to you. My love and prayer are with you. Always a friend Erlinda

Ty April 21, 2015 at 11:29 pm

Hello, I just wanted to say thank you for all that you do! Please come home soon!

Maria June 1, 2015 at 2:48 pm

I want to let u troops I support u men and woman 100% ty so much for keeping g us safe truly appreciate it..

Mike Coy June 6, 2016 at 8:51 am

I am a Vietnam vet. I can relate, and when I hear, see, contact and pray for our military everywhere who fights for the good of innocent people, I get overwhelmed. Thank You for your services. I have a pen pal from Vietnam and she continues to keep in touch. What a devoted lady she is to me and our troops. Songs on you tube: Soldiers & Jesus, God Bless America, God Bless America Again, Deck of Cards by Flom, Save the Country. GOD Bless All of YOU! Romans 1:9.

Jody February 28, 2017 at 8:23 am

Hello I am looking to write a soldier in the army? I’m trying to find out how to do that.. any help would be great thank you!

Jennifer April 9, 2017 at 6:08 am

Hi, am looking to be a pen pal to a soldier who needs a friend to talk

Barbara May 21, 2017 at 11:37 am

I am looking to write a military man as well but I am not sure what site to find one on. Adopt a platoon keeps saying the site is not available. Some sites want to charge you just for doing a good deed even writing.

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